Saturday, September 29, 2007

The heady hearty conversations!

The heart tells the head
I don’t seem to hear you these days
I miss your lecture
And the reprimanding you used to give me
Have I not erred off late?

The head just sighs!
And looks at the heart with a benevolent smile
Says…I admire your resilience! The fortitude with which you move up & about
Oh dear heart! Would you not teach me how to feel things?
Please teach me to feel the richness of the emotions within?

The heart is too shocked to react!
What have we here?
My mentor wants to learn from me?
How can I? An insignificant greenhorn
Illumine the sage of worldly wisdom?

But the head is persistent
In his search to quench his thirst
Of knowing how it feels to lose
And yet be happy for the winner
What makes the heart so forgiving?
How can she smile while hurting?

It’s simple if you try she says
To understand the nuances of my ways
I don’t have the capacity to sit in judgment
Of the rights & the wrongs!
I love to run in the sunny meadows
With the breeze licking at my tresses
I love to stop by & smell the flower that’s beckoning with its fragrance
Without worrying if it's an ambush!

Life is too precious to while away just thinking & mulling over what if….
And yet I could not have done without you.....dear head!
It’s your bosom that gives me the solace when I’m heartbroken
Or feeling let down at times
It’s you who showers upon me your wisdom
And plods me to go and cry a bucket
The tears that wash away the settled dust
And makes me all new again
To go and find another nook
That has a brook flowing
And birds chirping all the way
The whole scene aglowing.


Copyright © BuntysBanter 2007

Saturday, September 22, 2007

Because I said so – movie review

Directed by Michael Lehmann
Writers : Karen Leigh Hopkins (written by) & Jessie Nelson (written by)
Genre : Comedy / Romance
Certification : U/A

God made mothers coz he could not be everywhere at the same time.

The above is so extensively used by Hallmark cards that the contents have probably got bleached by now. And yet, every mother shall nod happily at the mention of these very words. It’s like an acknowledgement of all those sleepless nights. All the poops & puke issues. All the dark circles that threaten to spill over the cheeks. The bulges that happen due to changing the mantra from “the body is a temple…worship it” to the “body is a dustbin….pack in the left over’s from your kids plate”.

I’m a mother at the crossroads of her motherhood. A mother who was used to be consulted about what colour should the umbrella in the picture be, or which shoe shall go with which dress. The word mommy could have easily passed as the most used word of the day. As usual…I was there for my dotty most of the times if not in person…then definitely at the end of the phone trying to allocate the order of importance to her call over the conference call with the regional heads.

Now this omnipresence is ever so welcome to the kids when they are little babies holding on to your apron strings to puff the chest of confidence! But once they start growing those little wings of maturity….they wanna fly! Soar high up there with not an iota of care in the world!

And being the doting mother that most of us are….seeing your fledgling unsteady on its new found feet, fluttering pompously its wings trying to prepare for its very first flight is a bit scary. You want the best for your child & for her to be eternally happy! No Sir…no heartbreaks for your baby!

So here I am….my baby’s been growing those tiny little wings of independence for sometime now. She wants her space….she has opted to sleep alone & suggests the exact word I should use when I want to scold her. Now this gets my goat! My child’s actually teaching me the method of approach towards discipline? I wouldn’t be raving this way if it was not for the 5th time that I was repeating my request in the first place!

So the best thing to do is enlighten yourself in “how to handle your independent child”. It’s a weekend & I opt to check out this movie…..Because I said so, to learn the mantra.

Diane Keaton has always been an inspiration. I loved her in “Somethings gotta give” & she’s back in this movie with the same vivaciousness. She exudes this crazy effervescence that’s totally contagious.

I gathered the movie was about a mum dealing with her grown up daughters & thought of picking up a trick or two since it deals with the same trade I belong to. Well…it did proffer a message alright! This movie was all about the right things that we think of doing in our endeavor to being great parents & how we goof it all up for our kids in the bargain.

Daphne Wilder (Diane Keaton) is a single mother of three beautiful daughters. Her other two daughters are settled professionally as well as in their personal lives. But the youngest, Milly (Mandy Moore) has never had a serious relationship in her entire life. So the “euphemism for God” takes the mantle of finding the Mr Right for her.

Daphne enlists on an internet dating site to find the probable “man of substance” (do we have such a terminology?). She interviews all sorts of characters & zero’s down on Jason (Tom Scott ) an architect by profession. In the mean while the musician, Johnny (Gabriel Machet) playing in the same restaurant who’s been noticing the whole drama thinks she’s interviewing all these guys for herself.
Milly in the meanwhile unknowingly is caught between two promising guys & is surprised at her luck….when it rains…it pours! This movie has lots of moments when one cracks up.

Above all what touched me in this movie was the character Daphne Wilder. There is this scene when she’s gone to live with Milly since she’s (Daphne) sick with her vocal cords going on a temporary strike. The mother / daughter duo’s watching a love story together when Daphne writes on the writing pad….“define orgasm”. It’s a hilarious scene with Milly trying to define the unrestrained physical & emotional excitement that one feels & then stops in her track. Now wait a minute….haven’t you ever experienced one before? She asks shocked! As Milly looks at her mum, lost for words….Daphne writes again “Don’t tell your two sisters I asked”.

Daphne’s wisdom coupled with ambivalence made her build a fortress that kept little things that gave her joy far away. A bundle of hyperactive mind with so much common sense packed in….that it hurts. This movie is not just about a mother/daughter relationship. It’s about all the things we do in life chasing righteous attitude & somewhere down the lane….we forget to let down our hair & have some plain innocent fun ourselves.

Copyright © BuntysBanter 2007



Plus Points: great movie especially for parents of growing up kids

Minus Points: The character of Joe who Daphne finally marries should have been more fleshed out. He just comes across as a brilliant grand-dad.

Movie Rating: ****

Music Rating: ***

Season of memories!

Noor Jahan sat under the magnificent Silver Maple tree as the garden filled with dry leaves shed from the Royal Paulownia in the corner of the garden surrounding the ornate bungalow. Time seemed to fly by her. Spring had turned to summer, summer to the monsoon & now autumn approached galloping in full glory. The Red Mulberry tree had shamelessly shed its lobed, unevenly balanced leaves leaving behind bare branches. Everything looked stark cementing the misery she felt from within.

The two things’ she loved about this season though were the flock of migratory birds that perched on the rickety grim colored bare branches & the wind that blew from the northern direction. Noor loved to feel the breeze in her hair as she sat reminiscing about her life in her beloved Kashmir. How she recklessly ran around the house her grand father, Sheikh Abdul Ghani had built in the early part of the twenty-first century. Kashmir had been her soul. A place where she was born. A place that was like no other. A place who’s people exuded the warmth which was so alien in New York.

Noor’s father, Sheikh Rafik Abdullah Ghani was the emerging face in the state political circles. Noor was his only child & the apple of his eyes. Noor's mother had died of hemorrhage during childbirth & Sheikh Saab had raised Noor with the help of Rabia bi.

Noor accompanied her father on his political trips of the province. Her celestial looks made her stand out in the crowd. It had been one of those relentless trips in the interiors during a political campaign. The cavalcade of motors snaked through pristine forested areas when a bomb exploded ripping the bridge they were crossing.

In between screams of agony at the unexpected assault flew smoke & splinter, wasting everything in its path like a tornado. Within seconds, what was once a majestic procession turned to upturned smoke bellowing wreckage. Sheikh Saab never traveled in the same car with Noor. He was perhaps wary of the jingoistic spirits of the jihadis fighting for an independent Kashmir.

Noor’s car was thrown into the river below dismantling the car’s outer body & flinging her about 10 feet away where she landed with a rude thud on jagged rocks. Sheikh Saab’s car miraculously escaped the brunt of the attack. Receiving minor cuts & bruises, he scrambled to the banks of the river shouting out to Noor Jahan worried sick about her well being.

Noor was brought back to safety by the rapid military forces that swung into action. She suffered grave injury all over her body. Her spine was broken & body scalded. Within a few hours, she was flown to Srinagar & after administering first aid to Delhi for life saving treatment. The various test reports were grim. It was as if the carpet had been pulled from below Sheikh Saab’s feet. He worried & suffered but due to his public image, maintained gravity.

The press hounded the attack episode & all the victims involved in it. The video clippings were all over the national & international channels. The world grieved at Noor’s misfortune. Hundreds of miles away, Noor’s best friend Piyu was watching the news & was horrified at seeing her friends limp figure as she was being transported from Srinagar to Delhi. She was heart broken. Noor & she had studied together in a public school in Mussorie. They had been inseparable as school mates.

When Noor came to, she realized that she had lost all sensation hips down. Being a medical student didn’t help much. She realized the gravity of the situation & started spiraling down the abyss embracing depression in spurts. Too much knowledge had made Noor pessimistic. The hospital counselors realized that along with her body, they had to concentrate on her mental disposition as well.

After the initial surgery & recovery, Sheikh Saab flew Noor to New York to meet Dr Shepherd who was an authority on spinal injuries. Dr Shepherd was a realist & talked to Noor directly without veiling the truth. Only her attitude could save her, he said.

Meanwhile, Piyu had been in touch with Noor & the pathos in the once bubbly Noor’s voice had saddened her immensely. She cried tears of helplessness & despair wondering how she could help her friend when she needed her the most.

It had been raining that morning & the birds had taken shelter soaked to their skins. A woebegone looking Myna sat perched near her window, fluttering its wings at odd intervals to shake off the rain droplets that had mercilessly permeated to her bones. The sight of the Myna took Piyu back to their school days in class 9th.

Noor & She had not been particularly faring well in their lessons. They had been fascinated by a lame Myna. This bird was born with just one leg which was wretchedly crooked with its claws grotesquely pointing upwards. The Myna could just hop a little & then would sit down spent on its belly. But she was one feisty little girl! She would extricate energy reserves from all corners of her little body to get up and hop on to the boundary wall which was her favorite position to hold court with the other’s from her clan chirping animatedly in the morning sun.

Noor & Piyu could never get enough of their favorite Myna. They had named her Polly the folly! They brought back bread crumbs & biscuits from the breakfast table for Polly & in the time to come, Polly adopted the two girls allowing them to trespass in her personal space.

Piyu had a few pictures of Polly that was very close to her heart. Whenever she felt discouraged, she would open her childhood album & out would spring Polly to wipe her tears of despair. And now Noor was far away in a strange land lost & broken. The idea to resurrect Polly sprung suddenly in Piyu’s mind. She quickly sat down to write Noor an email with Polly’s picture. Piyu’s words flowed right from her heart as she brought to life the misty memories of yester years. She penned a little poem in commemoration of Ms Polly.

I’m Ms Polly the dauntless
The one legged spirit of life
I don’t shake or tremble
Nor cower in pain…a reputation

I don’t wave the flag of despondency
Nary a cry of humble inadequacy
Battle on I will,
Even when the dignity is under strain
Coz I’m Ms Polly
The one legged spirit of life

I crenellate hope
And push away any scope
Of pulling down the essence of life
I’m Ms Polly the dauntless
The one legged spirit of life


Thousands of miles across seamless oceans, Noor received a message from Piyu to check her email. Noor’s abba jaan* had made sure that she remained connected to all the people who mattered to her. She hopped on to her wheel chair & thrust herself towards the computer table. As the email unfolded, tears of joy ran down her cheeks recollecting the careless abandon with which they squandered their lesson time fooling the dunderhead dormitory in charge into thinking they were researching a project in astronomy. It never occurred to the dunce supervisor to question the connection between the garden boundary wall & the stars & planets.

Noor read Ms Polly’s poem with brimming eyes & a straight back. The email was like balm to her ravaged spirits. She summoned the nurse & asked her to get her an appointment with the physio-therapist. Everyone was surprised at the sudden resurgence in Noor’s attitude. The faltering disposition was replaced by a renewed strength & belief in locking horns with her nemesis.

The journey towards complete recovery was prolix fraught with set backs. But the resolve was undeterred & therefore the siege to emerge victorious inevitable. One therapy that Noor particularly looked forward to was her swims with the dolphins. She strained no matter what to not let the beloved creatures down who swam alongside her, gently nudging her to stay afloat.

As weeks stretched to months & autumn to winter & then spring….Noor’s limbs started gaining strength. The vigor returned slowly. It was for the first time that she was ecstatic to feel the pain in her legs. Even the physical pain was welcome in comparison to manifesting numbness.

By late May Noor was finally discharged from the Hospital. The staff had grown so fond of this resilient Indian girl, that they hosted a farewell party in her honour.

The door bell kept ringing continuously and an annoyed Piyu groggily lumbered to the door to check who it was at this godly hour. The door opened to a blast of energy that hugged her tight & Noor chuckled looking at Piyu’s stumped face.

They hugged & laughed at the same time, tears of redemption chipping away the remorse that had filled both their lives the last few months. As the two friends sat sipping steaming hot tea on the balcony, the first rays of sun hit the greenhouse roof & life around them began to come alive.

The birds started singing their tunes, hopping on the rain washed branches. The milkman hurried to deliver everyone’s quota on time. The paper boy cycled around dropping neat bundles of news that carried reports of the mayhem around. The readers read the news along with their morning breakfast & went about doing what they did without a passing thought. But the people who were affected by such meaningless tragedy…they were changed forever.


"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, 'I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'"
-- Eleanor Roosevelt


*Abba Jaan - Father

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